TMJ Friends

Now that the final phase of this long ordeal is almost over I can feel my motherly instincts kicking in. I have been so patient and understanding for such a long time, but now I am ready to have you leave the nest, not today, next week, or even next month, but hopefully soon. It was such a subtle change that I had to really think about what was happening. I have no point of reference, however I am sure that this is a normal reaction. I find myself being a little less patient, and a little less understanding. In the past there never seemed to be any light at the end of this long tunnel, and now that I see it I feel the need to push you a little harder. While I realize that you just got out of surgery, and need time to heal, I also realize that it is more important than ever that you follow your post op regimen to the letter. Enter the nag…ME. It isn’t a comfortable position, and I can see by your reactions that you don’t like it, however it is one of those mommy things “I am doing this for your own good” or “It hurts me more than it hurts you.” Funny how those sayings finally make sense. Our roles were that of mother and child for so long, and it was out of necessity, but subtly it is changing. I am beginning to see you in a different light, you are an adult woman who really needs to be on your own, doing all the things that women your age do. I want this for you as much as you want it for yourself. As I said, not today, not next week or next month, but soon. When you leave the nest I will feel lost and more than a little sad, my gift to you are your wings…. and I know you will soar to high places. I love you.

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